Comments on: Grandma

By: Op Shop Mum

Op Shop Mum — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 15:10:42 +0000

Take her home and look after her.

By: Rose

Rose — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 08:39:35 +0000

I really feel for you- you sound like a wonderful grandaughter but you have a little person here who needs you very much.

I don’t know them of course but I think your Mother and sister sound like they are being very irresponsible- if we can’t look after our family who can we look after.

I truly don’t understand the way we treat the elderly in the west generally. I went to hospital yesterday, for a meeting actually not for myself, and everyone there was old- it was all their old friend picking them up and visiting them- where were there children? their younger family? Perhaps they came later i don’t know but it does make you think.

I’m sure she knows how much you love her and want to help

By: Deer Baby

Deer Baby — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 18:50:56 +0000

Oh sweetheart I’m so sorry. What a horrible and upsetting situation and I can understand your rage and feeling of helplessness. I don’t know what the best solution is – I really don’t. I’d like my parents (my Dad has dementia) to move nearer to us so we can be on hand more but I fear the confusion of moving somewhere totally foreign might confuse him even more. My heart goes out to you, really it does.

By: Big M

Big M — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:00:19 +0000

It is just so unjust!

I still think outing your mother in the local papers would be a) truly more than well deserved b) might hurt her where it counts and force her out off her gut-wrenchingly annoying state of egotistic, self absorbed, phlegmatic indifference…

May be a bit of rage talking here, but the plan is not without merit… and you are a writer after all.

By: kelleyn

kelleyn — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 12:34:52 +0000

Sorry to hear about your grandmother. Is it possible to find her another care facility. I am shocked to hear the conditions at the home that you spoke of. What is Germany coming too. Hope you can find a solution that you are comfortable with.

By: Mwa

Mwa — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 22:27:41 +0000

What an awful situation. Family can be the worst. I hope you find a solution. x

By: Carol P

Carol P — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 22:34:01 +0000

I’m sorry to hear about that. My granpa had Alzheimer and at some point a care home was the best place to him, but my mother was always keeping an eye and family changed granpa several times from a care home to another until find a good one. Maybe find a better care hme is a good idea or if your family could go more frequently to check if she is ok, I mean if they are taking care of her properly. Sorry but its the only way I guess. Its hard I know… maybe you could go and sort this, I know lloks crazy, but if you care go for it.

By: Rosie Scribble

Rosie Scribble — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 20:58:05 +0000

Oh how dreadful. Would speaking to your mother or sister help? I’m guessing not. Are the care home able to help at all? Her doctors? The distance means there is a limit to what you can do but it sounds as if you are doing your best. x

By: Janet

Janet — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 20:57:35 +0000

Oh this is so sad. No words – just hoping that you can arrive at a peaceful decision.

By: Krystal

Krystal — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 20:32:37 +0000

bring her home i will come help.
this really touches home – my great grandma (who gave me so much and helped raise me when my madre was too irresponsible ) is just in the process of being moved to a care home with Alzheimer. it’s breaking my heart that i’m so far away, too.